“Is Love Ever Enough?” – Straight Talk With Funmilola

Great sex will go away, the butterflies in your stomach will stop fluttering, what you both will have left is the power of great friendship, genuine love of each other’s company and trust that would last forever.

Falling in love is not only a powerful emotion, it can simply be magical, each moment seems so right, so perfect! Soon attraction makes room for a relationship and companionship, but in no time,we are brought down to planet earth with the challenges and realities of sharing our space and life with another human being. As those wonderful and enchanting weeks turn into months, somewhere along the line we decide to take the relationship to the next level and walk down the confetti carpeted aisle and say ‘I do.’
In the bigger picture and reality of a marriage, we begin to ask, “IS LOVE EVER REALLY ENOUGH?”

An elderly woman once told me that, when I get married one thing I should always have in mind is that, it’s not only love that would make me happy as a wife, but i needed to understand patience, tolerance, submission, and compromise. Above all, I needed to learn to ‘act deaf’ (whatever that means, I’ll probably find out when I finally decide to get married).

While writing this, a woman who had been married for 21 years told me “Any woman who thinks love is all that would sustain her is a joker! Marriage is never about the victor nor the vanquished; love works all the magic but a strong character and perseverance till the land.”
Yet another woman’s opinion is that what goes away in a marriage is not love; it’s the attraction and strength to make a relationship work. She said, “Love is about enduring, understanding, surviving and overcoming tough times.”

Great sex will go away, the butterflies in your stomach will stop fluttering, what you both will have left is the power of great friendship, genuine love of each other’s company and trust that would last forever. Love is all encompassing of all these things we take for granted. Love is in the patience, tolerance and trust we exhibit, and above all, God is love!

So I ask you, who says Love is not enough?

About the author:
From writing fictions to short notes, Funmilola Oladimeji has used her pen to engage others since high school. Now a graduate of Mathematics from the University of Ado Ekiti, she continues to pursue her writing career by working on her first novel. Her hobby is reading, especially inspirational novels, investigative novels, and her Bible. For more of her writings visit her Blog.

  1. Olufunmi Reply

    Thanks dear.

  2. Vyolet Reply

    Way to go on this essay, helped a ton.

    • Jacoby Reply

      This is just what I was looking for…

  3. Jeneva Reply

    Boy that raelly helps me the heck out.

  4. Wiley Eveleth Reply

    “Do all things with love.” ~ Og Mandin

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