Secretly we like to believe we are irreplaceable, but your ex meeting his next lover does not mean you are not special. Don’t ever compare yourself with your replacement. Take time to get over an ex, and don’t rush into something new just to make a point!
When a relationship breaks and all the accusations have died down, you might feel some sort of relief. For one thing, you are able to go anywhere you want without having a tag along. Freedom at last! You sigh. You are basking in this euphoria when you get a big jolt – you find yourself face to face with your replacement!
All the good works you’ve done over the months trying to get over him is now down the drain. He may not be good enough for you, but why is he attracted to someone else?
I was out to get some fruits at a shop around the corner when I ran smack into them, your guess is right, my ex and his new lover. I was dumbfounded, I really experienced what growing cold means. I’ve heard he’s gotten hooked to another woman barely months after our separation, but to have to come face to face with her was a cruel coincidence I never envisaged. I took a critical look at her and gave myself a satisfactory pass mark. I was prettier and more sophisticated than she looked. What on earth did he see in this one?
All of a sudden, the man I’d thought I’d completely put at the back of my mind became larger than life. I was surprised at how depressed I felt at being so successfully replaced so soon. Though I was the one who gave him the push, but I had done that a couple of times before and he had come crawling back. When we had our last tiff, I really held back, determined to make him see how indispensable I was in his life. Seems I had gone too far this time and I have been replaced. Would it have hurt so much if I hadn’t found out he had a new lover? Or was it the indecent haste with which he did it that rankled..?
So you are currently suffering from next lover syndrome? Secretly we like to believe we are irreplaceable, but your ex meeting his next lover does not mean you are not special. Remind yourself that your relationship was a mix of good and bad. Be realistic. So you may hear through your friends that your replacement is ravishingly beautiful with a degree in something unpronounceable, but let’s face it, your ex is not going to tell people that she snores like a pig.
Don’t ever compare yourself with your replacement. Take time to get over an ex, don’t rush into something new just to make a point, have fun with friends and do all the things you like that your ex was never keen on. Finally, remember men also suffer from next lover syndrome and who knows, next time it might be your ex shooting murderous looks at his replacement …
About the author:
From writing fictions to short notes, Funmilola Oladimeji has used her pen to engage others since high school. Now a graduate of Mathematics from the University of Ado Ekiti, she continues to pursue her writing career by working on her first novel. Her hobby is reading, especially inspirational novels, investigative novels, and her Bible. For more of her writings visit her Blog.