The 36-year-old divorced mom of three wore blue satin and clutched a bouquet of white roses as she walked down the aisle before a gathering of 45 friends and family members in Fargo, North Dakota.
She vowed to “to enjoy inhabiting my own life and to relish a lifelong love affair with my beautiful self,” reports Fargo’s InForum newspaper . After the ring was exchanged with the bride and her inner-groom, guests were encouraged to “blow kisses at the world,” and later, eat cake.
Schweigert, who followed the ceremony with a solo honeymoon in New Orleans, claims the wedding was her way of showing the world she’s learned to love and accept herself as a woman flying solo.
“I was waiting for someone to come along and make me happy,” she said.” At some point, a friend said, ‘Why do you need someone to marry you to be happy? Marry yourself.’”
Not everyone was in agreement. Some of Schweigert’s friends, who’d undoubtedly seen Carrie Bradshaw register for a pair of Manolos on season 6 of Sex and the City, thought she was going a little far with the single pride thing. Schweigert’s 11-year-old son was her biggest critic: “He said, ‘I love you, but I’m embarrassed for you right now.’”
Some feel that the idea is a bad one. ”Marriage is about union, it’s about partnership, most of all, it’s about compromising on and sharing the things in your life that are hard to compromise on or sharp to deeper, more personal elements like beliefs, emotional vulnerabilities, and bank accounts,” said Cindy Rosen.
Self-marriage, to some, is an oxymoron. Singlehood means freedom, marriage means enclosure. Both can have serious value and can be cozy and wonderful, but getting married to yourself feels strange to most. Why not just embrace the glory of being single and live an awesome life full of not fighting over the covers or smelling someone else’s weird smells? And have a party to celebrate it! To support this, I will show up and buy you two blenders, a rice cooker, a lacy keepsake frame, and small towels you don’t know what to do with.
But if you marry yourself, you have a great chance of making it last – forever.
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